THE LODGER WITHIN COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

A Gentle Framework for a Clear, Peaceful and Empowering Space.

These are the living agreements that protect the atmosphere of our community — wiping the windows clean so your inner clarity can shine through.

They’re simple, human, and compassionate.

They exist so we can all breathe here.

1. We Speak From “I,” Not From the Lodger

We share from our experience, not from the reactive voice inside us.

We aim for honesty without blame, expression without projection.

2. No Judging In Either Direction

No shaming.
No diagnosing.
No spiritual superiority.
No unsolicited moral guidance.

Everyone here is on their own timeline.

3. Confidentiality Is Sacred

What is shared here stays here.

No screenshots.
No retelling.
No whisper networks.

The Lodger thrives on insecurity.
We create safety instead.

4. We Don’t Fix People

When someone shares, we don’t jump in with:

• advice

• solutions

• corrections

• analysis

• “Here’s what you should do…”

We hold space.

We offer empathy when appropriate.
We ask, “Is support welcome?” before offering it.

Safety > fixing.

5. We Let Emotions Exist Without Shame

You can cry, tremble, be confused, be stuck, be human.

Your emotions don’t need to be “fixed.”

You’re allowed to feel, and you’re allowed to be messy.

The Lodger forms from emotional suppression,
so here, we loosen its grip.

6. We Honour Slowness

No pressure to perform, reply, or keep up.

Transformation happens at the pace of the nervous system, not at the pace of the feed.

You’re allowed to take your time.

7. We Don’t Use This Space for Persuasion, Promotion or Recruiting

No selling.
No pitching.
No convincing.
No religious or ideological agendas.

We’re here for clarity not noise.

8. We Celebrate Self-Responsibility

You own your healing, your choices and your boundaries.

The Lodger blames.
We take responsibility.

9. We Interact With Kindness, Curiosity, and Clean Energy

Speak gently.
Listen deeply.
Approach others as whole beings, not problems to diagnose.

Be curious instead of assuming.
Be present instead of reactive.

10. We Return to the Mantra

Whenever a conflict rises, or emotions spike or the Lodger flares up:

Evict the Lodger — See Through the Toxic — Live on Your Terms.

This is the compass.
This is the reset button.
This is how we keep the space clean.

11. We Remember Why We’re Here

We’re not here to accumulate concepts or impress others.
We’re here to:

• dissolve the Lodger

• reclaim inner peace

• restore our emotional sovereignty

• create a cleaner experience of life

• walk with gentleness

If you’re here, it’s because something in you is ready.

This space honours that.

12. We Honour the Nervous System

If something feels overwhelming:

• pause

• breathe

• unhook

• return later

Not every moment is meant for deep work.

Gentleness is the discipline.

13. We Respect Boundaries

Yours and others’.

No demanding responses, attention or emotional labour.

Everyone here is a sovereign being.

14. We Allow Discomfort, But Not Harm

Honesty is welcome.
Vulnerability is welcome.
Disagreement is welcome.

Disrespect is not.

We hold high safety and high compassion.

15. We Recognize the Difference Between “You” and Your Lodger

If someone reacts from pain, we remember:

It’s the Lodger.
Not the person.

This simple recognition softens the entire world.

Final Line: Enter With Openness. Stay With Awareness. Leave With Clarity.

This is a space for discovering a new inner life.

If you agree with these principles, you belong here.

Being rude, promoting stuff and spamming will result in a ban to publishing in the community space.